4 Ways To Bounce Back After You Take a Hit

It's inevitable that you'll hit some bumps in your career from time to time.

Sometimes you're at fault. Other times you're the victim. 

Either way, these experiences have the potential to undermine your confidence and stall your growth.

I'm talking about things like:

  • An embarrassing mistake or failure

  • Getting laid off, fired or not getting the promotion or job you want

  • An argument with a colleague or boss

  • Harassment or discrimination

  • Being talked down to or criticized

  • Regularly comparing yourself or being compared to others

Often, these experiences bring out your Inner Critic.

Your Inner Critic is that harsh voice of self-doubt in your head.

It's the voice that plays a highlight reel of your screw-ups, much like a broken record.

It's the voice that blames you for what went wrong.

It's the voice that sees everything in black and white. 

It's both irrational and persistent.

So what can you do to build yourself back up after a professional setback has your mind playing tricks on you?

  1. Re-Focus On Your Natural Talents - Remember what you're good at and the unique strengths you bring to your career. Remind yourself of your past wins, particularly in tough situations. Identify some affirmations and repeat them daily. Positive self-talk can be a good buffer during challenging times.

  2. Keep Things In Perspective - Keep your emotional response in proportion to the situation and work to manage your self-doubt. Most likely, it's not a life-or-death situation or the worst case scenario. Take a break to de-stress and do something you enjoy; this can help you re-group, repair your ego, re-ignite your creativity and figure out what really matters. 

  3. Reflect And Then Let It Go - Think about what you learned from the situation and what you can do differently next time. Then forgive yourself and others from any mistakes. Don't beat yourself up; practice self-compassion and move on. 

  4. Plan Your "Comeback" - Visualize what success looks like and create an approach to make it happen. Start small and make note of these initial wins. Let them fuel your growth and re-build your confidence and continue to expand upon them.

If you want to learn more about how to quiet your Inner Critic, boost your confidence and be the most badass version of yourself, check out my signature digital program, The Badass Professional Woman's Code. It's 10 modules packed with training, coaching and real-world exercises and it's only $297 right now. 

💃 You don't have to let some setbacks and self-doubt keep you down. Take back control of your story and move forward with confidence. 💃


The Tipping Point: When Strategic Vision and Total Confidence Intersect

I have a friend who is a BFD in her industry; she’s a big shot, yet (unnecessarily) modest about it.

I’ve admired and watched her career progress over the last 18 years. 

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She started off as an intern for one of the most powerful men in her business and became his protégé before earning a spot as a leader in her own right.

This was no simple feat.

She’s one of a few women in her field and has endured her share of difficult personalities, sexism and egos.

In spite of the inherent challenges in her competitive industry, she’s always approached her career strategically, on her own terms and a bit differently than everyone else in her field.

❌ She doesn’t look or act like most of her peers. 

❌ She committed to a disciplined business model, brand and approach from the beginning, turning down clients who weren’t the right fit, even when that meant leaving money on the table.  

❌ She’s made her family a big focus when her colleagues spent most of their time on the road.

❌ For nearly two decades she kept a low profile, working hard behind the scenes to learn ALL facets of her business and cultivate strong, rich relationships.

This was all intentional.

She spent time in the weeds and invested in her relationships early on so she could gain deep expertise, respect and credibility.

Now, two decades later, her confidence is unshakeable.

She knows her shit.

She knows the right people.

And everyone in the industry knows this.

So she’s ready to make her next big move – disrupting her industry.

As she told me about her plans last week, I was impressed.

Not only did she come up with a brilliant new business model, but she had no fear about embarking on this venture.

She had total confidence

Confidence that had been hard-earned after years of grinding, hustling and patiently observing the ecosystem around her.

My friend will tell you that she isn’t the smartest person in the room.  She doesn’t seek attention.  She’s not looking to get credit.  She’s not a risk-taker.

Nonetheless, she’s reached the tipping point where her strategic vision and the confidence she’s built over two decades have intersected to propel her to the next level.

Because of this she is:

✅ Creating a differentiated value proposition for her new venture. 

✅ Enjoying the first mover advantage for her innovative new business.

Her vision doesn't stop there though.  She knows where she’s going even after this next venture succeeds.

Like other disruptors, innovators and creators, she’s used this process:

🔥 Step 1:  Humbly learn your craft, identify mentors and drive towards excellence.

🔥 Step 2:  Build your personal brand by doing things in your own unique way and consistently deliver on your strengths. 

🔥 Step 3:  Identify market inefficiencies and gaps and innovate to disrupt the status quo.

This method takes vision, persistence and serious confidence.

My friend’s path is not for everyone. 

But I’m sharing her story to inspire you to think differently - to think bigger and more strategically.

👉 Where could you be innovating? 

👉 Where are the opportunities for you to add value? 

👉 Where can you excel by doing things YOUR way?

👉 And who are you learning from?

My friend didn’t get here all alone.  She had mentors, coaches and a diverse support system.

Who do you have to support you?

Helping entrepreneurs and corporate professionals strategize on their businesses and careers is my sweet spot. 

I’ve worked with hundreds of start-ups and individuals to help them launch new products, services and careers.

I know what works and the common pitfalls that can slow you down or completely halt any forward progress.

If you’re interested in learning how I can support you in taking your business or career to the next level, email me and we’ll set up some time to chat.


How To Get Out Of Your Own Way

Earlier this year, Frances McDormand's Oscar acceptance speech ended with a call for an "inclusion rider," intended to increase diversity in Hollywood. 

We need this same mentality in Corporate America.

And I don't just mean that large corporations and men need to create a more inclusive environment.

Women do too.

I have spoken with too many women lately - clients, friends, and former colleagues - who have shared stories with me about "mean girls" at work.  

We all know them.  Maybe it's your boss, your peer or even your friend.  

This type of woman takes subtle (and sometimes overt) digs at you that make you question your value, your expertise and your worthiness to even speak up and share your ideas.

In these situations, there are two things we as women should do.

First, don't be THAT woman.  Don't be jealous of another woman's success.  Don't let your own insecurity turn you into a "mean girl."

Second, don't let yourself get affected by this type of BS.  And it IS absolutely BS.

If you let this BS get to you, as my client recently told me, you will just keep bashing your head over and over on the glass ceiling.

And no one needs that.

So here's what you can do.

  1. Realize that moving up the corporate ladder and achieving success is not a zero-sum game.  Your success does not come at the expense of someone else's (and vice versa). There's enough room for all of us at the table. 

  2. Stop comparing yourself to other people.  

  3. Quit resenting people who get credit for your ideas or get more attention or praise than you do.

  4. Check your pride and ego at the door.

  5. Let this BS be the fuel to up your game and show up in a new way.

Yeah, I know, that's A LOT to ask.  

It may even seem unfair.  

And it's not always simple or easy. 

But it certainly doesn't need to be SO hard. 

If you're curious about how to do this and thrive at work, particularly when you feel like the cards are stacked against you, we should talk.

You don't need to feel less than, bullied or like an outsider.  You have too much to offer. 


The Two Most Important Skills For Long-Term Success

Ageism is a very real fear for many of the women who I coach.  

Some are afraid that they’re too old to make a change in their career.

Others worry about being unemployable in the imminent future because of their age.

And these aren’t just women in their third act.  Some of these women are only in their THIRTIES!

Whatever your age, instead of being worried about ageism, the bigger concern we need to focus on is the changing nature of work.

We’re shifting more towards a contract, gig economy and technology, including artificial intelligence, is rapidly changing the nature of many professions.

In light of these changes, there are two skills that will be increasingly important: empathy and critical thinking.

A 2018 Accenture study supports this notion.  The study found that for almost every single role in the future, a combination of complex reasoning, creativity, socio-emotional intelligence and sensory perception skills are critical for success.

The study also found that today’s education and training systems are ill-equipped to build these skills.

That’s because these are the type of skills that are acquired from experience and practice, usually over many years. 

This bodes well for older, experienced workers (and even for you younger workers in your thirties).  

You’re in an excellent position to leverage the wisdom and learnings you’ve acquired over you career. 

You can use your experiences – the successes and the failures – as a framework from which to make decisions and to help you better understand other people’s motivations and behaviors.

I see some women doing this very well.

The have high emotional intelligence, exceptional communication skills, sound judgment and are extremely adaptable.

I also see some women who struggle with this. 

When you struggle in this area, you may misread situations or people.   And this can lead to contention, passive aggressive behavior and arguments.

Or you may find yourself marginalized or sidelined from the action at work.  Your colleagues may feel it’s easier to move forward without you rather than include you in the decision-making.

These situations SUCK.

The good news is that it IS possible to work on these softer skills.

You can become a stronger communicator and more empathetic.

You can get better at reading other people and situations so you can understand what drives them.

You can learn how to think more critically and improve how you make decisions.

But you won’t be able to learn this from a traditional training or leadership development program.

This type of transformation requires a different approach.

I support women in strengthening these softer skills all the time. 

If this is an area where you can use some support, send me a message and we can work to customize a program to meet your needs.

You’re not too old. 

You’re not doomed to be marginalized or misunderstood.

You CAN build the empathy and critical thinking skills to help you rock the future of work.


Is It Time To De-Program Your "Operating System"?

When I left Corporate America and started my business three years ago, I went through a long period of de-programming.

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For my entire professional career, I worked for other people and organizations and conformed to their workplace norms and culture.

Without realizing it, I had been programmed to operate a certain way:

  • To arrive and leave the office at a certain time

  • To put in a specific number of billable hours per week

  • To take a set number of vacation days

  • To feel like I had to have all the answers (even when sometimes I just “didn’t know”)

  • To respond to emails ASAP

  • To be agreeable and say “yes” as much as possible

  • To ask questions if something didn’t make sense but not push too hard

  • To follow someone else’s vision

  • To accept that I didn’t call the shots at the end of the day

  • To expect only incremental salary increases if I wasn’t getting promoted

Once I became my own boss, I should’ve been able to create my own rules. 

But there was one thing stopping me – ME.  

I had guilt if I didn’t work enough hours, if I made money too easily or if I didn’t say yes to every opportunity.

Not because I truly believed I needed to work all the time, that making money needed to be hard or that I owed it to every prospect to find a way to serve them.   

But because I had been so programmed from my previous jobs to think that I had to work incredibly hard and put in long hours to have success and earn my salary.  I had been programmed to be so client-service oriented that my instinct was to say yes to anything they wanted, even when it didn’t really make sense for them or for me. 

It took a while, but over time I was able to shift my mindset away from the habits I’d developed over the past 15 years and implement new norms and ways of doing business that felt good for me.

This idea of de-programming your thinking and your work habits is a common theme for the women I coach.

They want to make changes and once they recognize that they actually CAN shift their way of being and how they do things, they have huge breakthroughs.

This is not limited to women transitioning starting their own businesses. 

De-programming how you operate and critically thinking through the practices that will best serve you and your career can be transformational for professional women working as employees for other organizations as well.

I’ve created this freebie, The De-Programmer, to help you evaluate where you can de-program your “operating system” so that you can experience more joy, greater ease and added success in your career.

Grab it now and let me know what you think!


My Struggle To Lead From My Heart

I've been getting lots of messages lately encouraging me to follow my heart.


This comes after some of the busiest few months I've ever had in my business.  

While I'm grateful for the abundance of work these past few months, with it came some stress and overwhelm.

Since coming out on the other side of this busy period, I've reflected on how to simplify things and promote more ease and less stress in my life.

And I keep coming back to this idea: A lot of my stress stemmed from an ongoing struggle between listening to the logical voice in my head and following what my heart told to do.

This was even confirmed when one of my clients decided to read my palm for fun a few weeks ago.  She claimed palm-reading was an Indian party trick she had learned as a child but her reading for me was so on point that I couldn't ignore it.

[NOTE: I'm normally skeptical of these type of readings. So if you are too, I get it.  But just humor me and keep reading.] 😁

Her reading revealed that my natural state, when I was born, was to lead with my heart.

Over time though, perhaps hardened by life experience, she could see from my palm that I started leading more and more with my head.

This tendency leads to over-thinking and over-analyzing and probably causes a lot of anxiety as I ruminate over scenarios, facts, and decisions.  

Her reading also revealed that this struggle between my heart and my head is a BIG issue for me.  She warned that if I didn't get it under control, the stress and anxiety would cause health issues down the road.

That scared the crap out of me.

It also confirmed what I had been feeling all summer. 

I've been building this big, amazing life and all the things I've been working towards are happening. 

I SHOULD'VE been really happy.

But instead I was too stressed and overwhelmed to appreciate it.  Maybe Biggie was right - Mo Money, Mo Problems. 😂

So I've slowed down over the month of September and had a few key breakthroughs:

  • When your life and success accelerate, you need to uplevel.  You can't keep operating from the same dialogue that worked before.  It's not going to be enough.  It's not going to fit.

  • It's important to get support in the right ways.  Doing it all alone is lonely and hard.  If you don't have support, whether it be resources or even people to help you keep things in perspective, you're more likely to spin and experience overwhelm. 

  • Re-connect your heart and your head.  Both are important but if they aren't aligned, then it's hard to experience the amazing life you're creating.

  • Grow strategically and intentionally. You can't control all situations but the more you can direct your path rather than react to what's happening around you, the better you will feel. 

As powerful, successful women, we have the opportunity to lead big, impactful lives. 

But sometimes we find ourselves in this amazing life we created and realize that we don't have the supports and mindset in place to enjoy it and thrive.

That's where I can help.  

If you're looking for something more in your career or you're already living the big life you've always dreamed of but somehow you're not enjoying it the way you feel you should be, let's connect.

I'm offering customized 1:1 coaching packages designed to meet your needs. If this interests you, email me and let’s chat.


What Becomes Possible For You When You Remove "Should"?

I want to talk about breaking the cycle of making decisions based on what you “should” do. 

Most people make decisions that way – it’s easier in the short-term.

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It requires less thinking about what we really want and what’s right for us and we can kinda go on auto-pilot and just do what we’re expected to do.

I see a lot of lawyers, doctors and housewives who did just that. 

They followed traditional paths because that’s what their parents wanted for them. 

That’s what they were groomed for. 

That’s what they assumed they wanted.

I followed that same logic for the first 15 years of my career too.  And even in my personal life until the last few years.

I kept reaching for the next level – the next promotion, the next raise, the next boyfriend.

All because I was building the life that society told me I should strive for.

Things like:

⚡️ Getting the executive position at a prestigious organization.

⚡️ Finding Mr. Right so I could move to the suburbs and have a white picket fence and two kids by the time I turned 35.

The thing is though, as I approached my mid 30s, I started to realize that these weren’t really the things I wanted.

These weren’t the things that made me happy.

What made me happy was freedom.

Freedom to work for myself.

Freedom to be single.

Freedom to travel when and where I wanted.

Freedom to not want children.

Freedom to want a different kind of life than all my friends and family around me.

So, I did it.

I left Corporate America.

I started my own business.

I travel as much as possible.

I basically do whatever I want.

And it’s awesome and scary and really hard at times.

Going against the grain and doing something different than everyone else or something different than what you thought you would do is a big deal.

But I think it’s a bigger deal to keep going down a path just because you “should” or “it’s the right thing to do” when it’s not really want you want or what lights you up.

I’ve experienced tremendous growth and opportunity since shaking off the pressures and expectations that society puts on women like me.

Let me tell you, it’s SO freeing.

If you’ve ever had even that fleeting thought that maybe you weren’t on the path you’re really meant to be on, or that you could be building a different kind of life, I strongly encourage you to explore that more.

You can buck the system and the “Shoulds” of society. It’s what badass women do all the time.

P.S. I'm opening up a few more spots for 1:1 coaching sessions. For a limited time, I'm offering sessions a la carte for $300 each; sessions must be used by Nov. 13.  Email me for more details.


What If You Let Your Intuition Lead You?

Today I want to talk about your intuition.  Sometimes we call this our sixth sense. 

It’s often a mixture of feelings and just an inner knowing about something. 

You may literally feel your intuition in your gut or your body temperature or you could feel it more in your brain as a sense or knowing about something.

Some people also feel their intuition in a more spiritual way – as a connection with their soul.

However your intuition shows up, it’s important to recognize it and tap into it.

It’s really our best guide for doing what feels right for us.

The problem is we often ignore our intuition or talk ourselves out of what we’re feeling or sensing because friends, family or society may be telling us something else.

That’s how we end up in jobs we hate, staying in unfulfilling relationships and taking on activities and obligations that don’t really serve us.

Often times we KNOW that these things aren’t really what we want or that something may feel off, but we can’t always articulate it or pinpoint why we are feeling that way.

Sometimes, in order to really hear what our intuition is telling us, we need to slow down and tune out the noise.

I experienced this in my own career, but it took me a while.  I spent 7 years at Deloitte Consulting, but for the last 2 years, something didn’t feel right.

I was moving at such a breakneck pace that I never really had the time or emotional energy to do the introspection and take the space to hear what my intuition was trying to tell me – that I wasn’t going to be happy there and I didn’t want to live the life of a Partner at a Big 4 Consulting Firm.

I finally realized I wanted to do something else, but again, was so focused on quickly moving on that I didn’t truly give myself the opportunity to slow down and think about what might be best for me.

I jumped next into a business development role with AARP.  Two years later, I found myself in the exact same position I had been in with Deloitte before – stressed out, overworked and knowing this wasn’t the life I wanted.

I knew that things needed to be different this time.  So instead of diving head first into the job search for my next gig, I took some time to think about what I really wanted. 

The type of life I wanted to have.

The kind of work I enjoyed. 

What makes me feel most alive.

I realized for the first time that I didn’t want to work for someone else.  I realized that I felt my best when I was being entrepreneurial – when I was creating, growing and owning something from my vision.

I did some of this in my time at Deloitte and AARP but I always felt stifled by someone else’s vision or the culture of Corporate America.

I had to slow down and listen to my intuition to have this breakthrough.  That’s how I made this decision – literally from a gut feeling.  

I never had a plan to be a business owner.  But once I slowed down to tune into what I really wanted and needed, it became very clear.  And what I wanted was something very different from what I had done before.

It’s funny how that can happen and how you can go down such a different path when you give yourself space and tap into what you really know you want deep down inside.

So, what’s your intuition telling you?

What would be possible for you if you truly believed that you trusted your instinct and that it never fails you?

If you're having trouble trusting your intuition, tapping into it or executing on what you know you really want to do, let's talk.  

I have a few more spots open for 1:1 coaching sessions - you can purchase up to four sessions to use by November 13.  If you're interested, email me and I will send you the details.


What's Really Weighing You Down and Keeping You Stuck?

I was having dinner with my friend over the weekend and she told me something I hear all the time – she was feeling stuck.


This woman is one of the toughest, most successful women I know. 

She’s exceeding her goals at work in the finance industry, making good money, has a great relationship with her husband and overall, is living a life most people would envy.

But lately she’s been pretty miserable.  

She’s had a series of miscarriages and is surrounded by toxic co-workers every day at work.  

She kinda wants to leave her job but worries that now isn’t the right time if she wants to get pregnant and have her first child.  

On top of all that, she’s starting to wonder if she’s even meant to have kids.

This is one of the most resourceful women I know and for once, she just isn’t sure what her next move should be or how to move forward.

My friend’s story – the successful, mid-career professional woman who seems to have it all, but is actually unhappy and feeling stuck – is all too common.

If you can relate to this, there are some things you can do to get greater clarity on what you want so you can get unstuck.

First, take a hard look at what’s weighing you down.  

  • Is it the pressure to earn a certain amount of money?

  • Is it that you’re getting older and feel like you need to have kids ASAP?

  • Is it that you want to spend more time with your family but this is also a really important time in your career?

Most likely, you’re feeling some sort of pressure because what you want in your personal life is incongruent with what’s happening in your career.  

Whatever it is – get clear about what’s REALLY weighing you down and where the pressure is coming from. 

Next think about, what doesn’t serve you anymore? What’s keeping you stuck and unsure of your next move?

And if whatever is weighing you down changes, then what changes for you?  Imagine what could be possible for you if you stopped letting yourself get weighed down.

It’s normal that things can feel hard and you feel stuck when you focus on a limiting idea.  

But we can’t stay in that state if we want to live a big, fulfilling life.

So let me leave you with this – how would you feel if it in 6 months you are in the same spot because you didn’t do anything?

Let me know if you want to chat about this – badass women don't stay stuck and I don’t want you to either.

P.S. I've found that even just a single coaching session can be enough to get my clients out of a rut and moving forward.  To that end, for a limited time, I'm offering a la carte sessions (up to four sessions) that you can purchase for $300 each.  I'm including a Fast Action Bonus: If you purchases 4 sessions by 5pm EST on Friday, September 14, I will throw in a 5th session for free.  Are you IN?  If so, send me an email and I will send you the details.


What's The Right Balance Between Confidence and Humility?

Recently, one of my coaches talked about how confidence and humility are the two main keys to success.

And that got me thinking because that balance between confidence and humility can be tricky, especially for women.

We're told to be confident and own our accomplishments but we all know women who do that and then they’re called arrogant or cocky.

And we know that part of being humble is about listening and being open to learning and feedback.

But we can’t only stay in the role of a learner if we want to be seen as a leader.

So how do we get this balance right between confidence and humility?

Badass women master this balance by doing two key things.

First, we get truly confident about our gifts and self-aware about our limitations.  And we need to be ok with both of these.  I’ve found that it’s when we’re insecure or feel backed into a corner that we start to show up in ways where we don't present our best self.

And a lot of times that is where confidence can veer into arrogance or being obnoxious or defensive.

Second, it helps to have a learning mindset and be open to continuous improvement.  We need to seek out people we can learn from.

And we need to be ok with "failure"; it's part of learning.

When these things happen, it's easier to show up confidently and authentically and still demonstrate humility.

So that’s my take.

What are your thoughts on the role of confidence and humility? How do they play into your success? And how do you balance the two?

Send me a message and let me know – I’d love to hear from you!


High-Performing Professional Women Want More Paid Leave and Greater Flexibility

Ambitious professional women want it all – the high-powered career and a balanced family life. 

But many employers aren’t making it easy for them with their limited family leave policies, rigid cultures and business models that, in practice, often really don't support working parents. 

Women who have children are often forced to go back to work before they’re really ready; on average, eligible workers take 8.5 out of the 12 weeks of leave permitted by the Family and Medical Leave Act.[1] 

This is in stark contrast to the 6 months of leave most experts, including the president of the American Academy of Pediatrics, recommend for new parents.[2]

When employers fail to support working families, women, who are typically the primary caretakers, feel the biggest loss – emotionally, financially and professionally. 

But this isn’t just a problem for the estimable women who give birth to children or the 43 million Americans who provide unpaid caregiving for elderly parents.

It’s a problem for the employers who hope to attract and retain these workers, particularly in a competitive job market where unemployment rates hit an 18-year low in May 2018.[3] 


The Alpha Test

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After hearing common challenges from the working moms I coach in my executive coaching practice, I approached Alpha, an on-demand user insights platform, to learn more about what working women really want and need from their employers to feel supported and successful.

We ran a series of tests on Alpha’s platform in August 2018, against a total audience of more than 700 professional women under the age of 60; approximately half of the respondents had or plan to have children in the next 9 months.  Here’s what we learned:

  • Approximately 1 of every 4 employees has turned down a job because the benefits package did not meet their expectations
  • Women (35%) ranked paid time off as the most important employer benefit, with 77% of women noting that paid time off, including maternity leave, was “extremely” or “very” important in relation to their overall benefits package
  • Other benefits women valued highly include flexible working arrangements (23%), fitness and wellness offerings (14%), adequate maternity leave (11%), subsidized childcare (6%), caregiving/eldercare support (5%) and concierge services to support daily tasks (5%)
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We conducted a deeper dive into maternity leave preferences and found:

  • 34% of new mothers surveyed receive less than 1 month paid maternity leave, 37% get 1-2 months, 21% get 2-3 months, 6% get 3-4 months and 2% receive more than 4 months
  • More than 60% of respondents felt that 3 months of paid maternity leave was reasonable and fair both for employers and employees
  • There was greater variation among respondents in terms of the appropriate timeframe for partial paid leave, with 19% supporting 1 month of partial paid leave, 20% supporting 2 months, 21% supporting 3 months and 18% supporting up to 6 months of partial paid leave

Our findings were clear: women want more paid leave and greater flexibility and many of them will turn down a job offer that doesn’t offer them competitive benefits.


Implications for Employers

So what’s the implication for employers?

Employers have a number of levers they can pull to attract and retain top female talent. 

Our research indicates most employers are falling short of women’s expectations and expert recommendations for family leave and there is an opportunity to offer more generous leave options.

Additionally, we found that a “one size fits all” approach to benefits may not be the answer for a workforce that spans multiple generations.  Employers may consider how they can customize aspects of their benefits plans, including paid leave, telework policies, and wellness offerings to create the most value for their best employees and talent.


Additional Considerations

While our test spanned multiple industries and job functions, we recognize that benefits preferences may vary greatly by industry, career stage and age and strongly encourage employers to carefully study the total benefit packages that make the most sense for their unique population.

Contact us to learn more about how Alpha and Mosaic Growth Partners can help you better understand your employees’ benefits preferences and co-create a benefits package that will help you attract and retain top female talent. 


[1] http://www.thefifthtrimester.com/

[2] Harvard Business Review, “When Will The U.S. Finally Act Boldly on Paid Family Leave?

[3] https://money.cnn.com/2018/06/01/news/economy/may-jobs-report/index.html

5 Ways To Get Your Motivation Back When You’re Just Not Feeling It

It’s August and many of us have settled into summer and vacations.  Taking a break every now and then is important, but sometimes a vacation can turn into the full-on summer doldrums.  The kind where you sorta just space out, don’t feel super motivated and don’t really feel like doing anything work-related.

It’s tough to fight that feeling but with fall just a few weeks away, it’s good to have some strategies to snap out of it and get your mojo back.   

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  1. Give yourself permission to take a break. It’s ok to feel like chilling sometimes. Give yourself some time off and embrace a slower pace. Use the downtime to re-charge – sleep more, see your family and friends, do nothing – whatever relaxes you. But, set a limit. Pick a date for when you need to re-engage with work and have a plan for how to get back into the swing of things (see #4 below).

  2. Get outside and think. Don’t stay trapped at your desk if you’re itching to be outside. Schedule walking meetings or take your laptop outside. Just being outside can give you a motivational and creativity boost. Also, getting out of the office with colleagues is a great way to deepen your relationships. So while you may not feeling like “working,” you can still network and get to know your colleagues better.

  3. Adjust your schedule. Would a different routine feel better for the last few weeks of summer? Think about what you can change to give you more flexibility so you can still enjoy the summer while also getting your work done.

  4. Set some fall goals. It’s fine to take your foot off the gas a little bit in the summer. But it’s not a great idea to check out completely. Use August to create a plan for what you want to accomplish in the fall.

  • Got a lot of thoughts swirling around in your head? Use this time to write them down and journal on them. Create space to think about the things that may be keeping you up at night.

  • Make a to do list for September. You can start with the big goals and then identify the weekly and daily to do’s to reach those goals.

  • Take some action before August ends – find one easy thing to do and do it. Taking action helps you move forward and prevents you from getting stuck. Doing this will help you leapfrog out of your current mindset and set you up for a productive September.

  • Make an investment to hold yourself accountable. I recommend my self-guided digital program, The Badass Professional Woman’s Code. It is designed to provide the clarity, motivation, tools and accountability to accelerate your career in the way that feels right for you.

5.  Consider if fear is really sabotaging your motivation.  Often, our fear and doubt are proportional with what we perceive to be waiting for us at the next level.  So when we start to think about what’s next, fear, doubt and limiting mindsets can creep in. All of this keeps us stagnant.  When this happens, think about how it would feel if you had already cleared up the old stories, self-sabotaging behaviors and limiting mindsets that keep popping back up.   

Feeling unmotivated by something else and can’t quite put your finger on it? Grab my FREE Motivation Manager to identify 10 common causes of de-motivation and strategies to help you re-engage.


Could Work Be Easier?

I consider myself a lifehacker. 

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I'm always trying new shortcuts and time-saving services to make my life easier and more productive.

But what makes the biggest difference is that I've set my business up to play to my natural talents.  

The success of my business is dependent on my ability to think strategically, communicate clearly, build and maintain relationships and make sales. 

And these are all things that come naturally to me. 

I've definitely honed these skills over the years and gotten better at them, but I was already pre-disposed to be successful at these tasks.

Things haven't gone so well for me when I've tried to rely on my non-talents...

Like when I had to conduct regression analysis using SPSS or manipulate large data sets in Excel.  Those projects took me about 10 times longer than people who were naturally good with data and statistical analysis. 😳

Or when I had to set up all the technology to run a webinar and when I delivered it, the sound was off and all the participants left because they couldn't hear me. UGHHHHH.

Rather than spending my time trying to get better at these areas for development, I choose to avoid them (often, I outsource them).

I know that may sound kinda bad - to just accept that I'm not very good at something and not try to get better at it.

But it's actually the smart, efficient thing to do.

My time is better spent on work that comes naturally to me - it requires less effort and I produce better results.

So, let me ask you, are you in a role that relies most on your natural talents?

If you are, that's awesome, You probably feel very productive, accomplished and engaged.

If you're not, you may be feeling stressed and frustrated, afraid of messing up, not good enough, and burnt out from working SO damn hard. 

Identifying your natural talents is the very first thing I do with my clients and it's the first module of my digital coaching program, The Badass Professional Woman's Code.

Knowing what you're naturally good at and figuring out how to use those talents every day will set the foundation for your entire career. 

If you want work to be easier and to experience greater joy and success, then focus on your natural talents.  It's going to give you the biggest bang for your buck.

To learn more about how you can unlock your natural talents and achieve greater success in your career by playing to your strengths, let's talk.

There IS an easier way. 🙌


How's Your Life Going?

When you first started in your career, did you think about the life you wanted to build?

I'm not talking about the career you wanted, but the LIFE. 

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I know I didn't... 

I had an idea of how I envisioned my life playing out, but when I applied for that first, second and even third job, I didn't think about whether those jobs would get me to that vision I had for my LIFE. 

If you're like me, you went through your 20s and even your 30s focused on climbing the corporate ladder and moving forward professionally.

And that focus helped you get ahead professionally.

But now that you've done all that, let me ask you: Do you have the LIFE you want?  Are you building a career that is congruent with the LIFE you envisioned?

When our career and LIFE are incongruent, this shows up in many different ways...

  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Irritability
  • Health issues
  • Difficulty sleeping
  • Excessive eating and drinking
  • Snapping at the people you love most

No one ever plans to end up in a situation like that.  

But this very lack of intention is what will land you in a job that will literally suck the LIFE out of you.

A job where you create countless decks to nowhere. (Seriously, how many PowerPoint presentations have you created in the last month that actually made a difference??)

A job where the pressure is always on for you to deliver even though you have no real influence or authority over the final decision or outcome.

A job where you frequently worry if you're going to be the next one called into your boss's office on Friday afternoon and let go due to another round of "re-structuring."

But what if you flipped the script and re-framed your career goals in the context of your LIFE goals?

  • What's the next phase of your LIFE really about?  
  • What's the most significant breakthrough you want to create?
  • How do you want to be with other people in your LIFE - your family, friends, colleagues, clients and community?

Given those answers, does your job align with that vision?

If not, the good news is your current job is not a life sentence.  

You can move on.  You can do the work to find your next job or career that allows you to have the LIFE you want. 

I promise you, it's possible.  I know because I did it. (To hear my story, listen to a recent episode of The SweetLife Podcast with April Beach, where I share how I designed my career around my LIFE.)

The difference between staying in a job that is incongruent with the LIFE you want and creating something more for yourself is the difference between just existing and living fully. 

Do you want to live intentionally?

Or do you want to live by accident?

The choice is yours. What will you do?

I would love to explore this further with you and help get your career and LIFE more closely aligned.  


Why Playing It Safe May Be Sabotaging Your Career

A few months ago I received an email from James Altucher that asked:

"Do you make fear decisions or growth decisions? For instance, do you stay in your job because you are afraid you won't get another job? Or do you stay in your job because you are excited about the growth potential there?...The fear-based decisions never worked out...The growth-based decisions all resulted in miracles." 


We have all made decisions out of fear.   

In the short-term, it's a lot easier to stick to the status quo - it's safe, comfortable and familiar. 

But when have you ever made a decision out of fear that has really brought you joy?

To get to that place where "miracles" happen, you need to step out of your comfort zone. 

Making decisions based on fear rather than growth can be the difference between a career you tolerate and one that gives you meaning, purpose and fulfillment.

Every. Single. Day.

I know this all too well. 

I made my most high-stakes fear or growth decision about 3 years ago when I decided to quit my job and start my own business.

I was miserable and knew I had to quit.  There was only so much longer I could fake it there.

I spent months looking and interviewing for other jobs.  That's what I thought I was supposed to do.  Find another job. 

But none of those jobs excited me.

And the more effort I put into the process, the more depressed and desperate I felt. 

One day it hit me - why am I looking for another job that I'm not excited about?

The truth: I had absolutely no idea.

I was kinda lost.  What I had done my whole career no longer felt good. 

I needed more.

So I started to think about what was possible...

I pushed myself to think beyond the limited way I had been looking at my options before. 

Once I started to open myself up to what was REALLY possible, I had more options.

And shortly thereafter, the solution became undeniable: I was ready to go off on my own and be my own boss.

This idea literally made me feel giddy.

I couldn't stop talking about it with anyone who would listen. 

I actually enjoyed working on my go-to market strategy and my website.

I had never had this feeling about work before.

Now work was fun, intellectually stimulating and something that I actually looked forward to doing every day. 

✨  When you approach things with a growth mindset, you become more flexible in finding solutions and accepting risk. ✨

Could you benefit from a similar shift?

  • Do you feel kinda bored or blah about your career but you aren't sure why?

  • Do you have a nagging feeling that there's something better somewhere out there?

  • Do you wonder how you're going to make it 6 months, 3 months or even one more day at the office if you have to continue with the fake smiles and enthusiasm?

If you answered yes to any of these, it may be time to think about what's next - whether that's a new role, a new career or launching your own business.

You don't have to stay stuck or tolerate your current job.

You can reclaim your power over your career. 

But it takes work. 

You need to first remove the fear and regret in order to uncover a new set of possibilities.

And that is where I can help.  

My digital coaching program, The Badass Professional Woman's Code, is open for enrollment.  In this program, I help take you out of your comfort zone so you can cut through the fear and BS and make real changes.  

Real changes that result in REAL GROWTH.

Don't wait another day.   


Squash The Imposter in You

Imposter syndrome is something I've seen plague most women at one time or another, even the most confident ones. 

I know this firsthand. 

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For me, mine creeps in when I'm asked to speak publicly.  I've always gotten nervous public speaking so fear is part of it.  But sometimes, I hear the voice in the back of my head asking, "Do you really know enough to speak on this topic or be on a panel with these other experts?"

Rationally, I know this doubt is silly.  The person who asked me to speak already thinks I'm qualified - that's why they want me there. 

But imposter syndrome isn't rational.  

And sometimes we don't even realize we have it.

Here are some indicators that imposter syndrome may be lurking inside of you:

  • You work hard, REALLY hard.  You may think you have to work that hard, but I'm willing to bet you work so hard because of some insecurity - that you aren't good enough, don't know enough, or aren't talented enough. 😠
  • You don't ask for the salary you deserve.  Since no one has offered you more money, you must not be worth it right?  WRONG.  Most organizations and businesses aren't going to proactively pay you more than they have to.  It's up to you to be confident enough to know your worth and ask for it. 🙋
  • You shy away from opportunities to stand out and increase your visibility.  You tell yourself you aren't qualified enough to do something that may be out of your comfort zone.  Or you're worried that you'll be exposed as a fraud and everyone will realize you actually don't know that much or aren't that good at your job.  But is that really true? 😳
  • You feel weird accepting praise.  When someone praises you, your instinct is to downplay your accomplishment, say you "got lucky," or give the credit to your team or someone else.  You don't think you're special or exceptionally talented; anyone who tells you otherwise must just be being nice. 👎

It's easy to see how imposter syndrome can you hold back and seriously limit your career opportunities. 

It's harder to learn how to squash it.

In my digital coaching program, The Badass Professional Woman's Code, we get to the root of the limiting beliefs that are holding you back from being the most confident, badass professional woman. 

In my program, I show you how to silence your Inner Critic and tune in and listen to your Inner Mentor, helping you kill the imposter lurking inside of you. We work together to build your confidence and executive presence and implement strategies to help you get more visible. 

I also want to offer you a freebie so you can start to banish the imposter in you right away.  Check out my Context Buster to break up the limiting beliefs and stories that are holding you back from being the most confident, badass version of you.


Why A Plan Won't Solve Your Problems

The #1 request I get from prospects and clients is "I need a plan."

A plan to get unstuck.

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A plan to help me re-claim my life and have some semblance of balance.

A plan to get promoted and respected for the value I bring. 

A plan to build my network so I can eventually start my own business.

A plan to enjoy work again.

Guess what? I NEVER had a plan to start my own business.

Being an entrepreneur had never been a dream of mine. I never intentionally made choices to lead me to this destination. 

Yet I'm now certain that this is what I was meant to do with my life.

Furthermore, I know that all of my previous work experiences prepared me to get to this point. 

It's not that I don't believe in planning because I do.  

In my everyday life, I'm a huge planner with a daily To Do list. I'm also one of the least spontaneous people I know. :)

But a plan is really just some words written down on a piece of paper.  Anyone can do that.

To really create something meaningful that will stick and be executable requires much deeper work.

Creating that kind of plan is not quick or easy.

It requires you to take a hard look at what's working and what's not.

It requires you to be honest about what's holding you back and why you have certain fears.

It requires a self-awareness and openness to understand your talents and where you can best utilize them.

It requires you to make hard choices and sometimes let go of the "safe" option and take a risk. 

This kind of plan is not a check-the-box activity.  

It can be uncomfortable and bring up a lot of "stuff"...  

"Stuff" many of us don't really want to deal with. 

And that can be hard.

Believe me, I know.

That's why my digital coaching program is designed to culminate in a 90-day action plan and 6-month strategic plan AFTER I support you through some of that messy work around the "stuff".

Once you put in the time to deal with the "stuff", the planning part isn't so hard.


Are You Proud Of How You're Showing Up At Work?

If you were a fly on the wall listening to a room full of your colleagues who were asked to give their opinions of you, what do you think they would say?

After they discussed your work ethic, your ability to meet deadlines, how well you managed your direct reports and whether you had enough expertise, what else would they say about you?


What are you worried they might say about you? 

What would be hard for you to hear?

Would you be proud of your behaviors and actions?

And if you knew that your colleagues were going to have this discussion about you, would you have shown up any differently?

I'm posing these questions because we rarely think about our work performance in this context.

Most people focus on DOING their job - successfully completing tasks and projects and cultivating and leveraging their expertise.

Fewer people focus on how they are BEING at work.

Let me explain the difference:  DOING reflects the actions you are taking and your reactions to various situations, but BEING focuses on how you are showing up in the present moment.

Our way of BEING is the underlying driver of our behavior and communication, which is what shapes the results we achieve and the overall quality of our existence. 

Shifting the way you show up at work, or your BEING, can create a new space from which you can lead and operate.  It frees you up to think differently and be more positive and resourceful.   

Here's the rub though - most of us don't get much feedback on how we're BEING at work.  

That's because it's a squishy subject - it's not factual or all that objective - and it requires people to sometimes have difficult and uncomfortable conversations. 

Telling someone that their behavior, mannerisms and communication needs work can feel insulting and like a personal attack. 

So people often shy away from giving this type of tough feedback. 

It's easier for your boss to give you vague reasons why you aren't getting promoted this year ➡️ "I just think you need a bit more time in the role" or "Try and be more like Amy - see how she's operating at the next level".

It's harder for your boss to be real with you ➡️ "You don't look the part of a VP; your clothes are frumpy and your hair is a mess" or "You're unapproachable and people on the team are afraid of you".

Consequently, you can't ONLY rely on others to give you feedback on how you're BEING at work.

YOU have to get real with yourself and do the introspective work to think about how you're showing up and where you can improve.

My 7 Day Boot Camp helps you do just that.  I designed each of the 7 days to focus on a specific strategy, behavior or mindset that badass professional women employ to show up visibly, confidently and empowered so that they get results with greater ease.

If you're DOING most of the right stuff, but things just aren't totally gelling, you probably need to take a look at how you're BEING. 

My boot camp helps you quickly identify the old contexts and habits that are prohibiting you from BEING your best self at work.

Once you're able to get real about what's not working, you can start to show up differently and more powerfully. 

Don't wait another day. Now is the time to take back control of your story and the way you show up in your career


It's Time For Some Tough Love

Did you know that nearly 70% of women accept the salary they're offered and don't negotiate? The numbers are a little better for men but still nearly 50% of men do the same thing.


I'm normally empathetic to the professional challenges we all encounter, but I just CANNOT wrap my head around this one.

So I'm going to offer some tough love.

You MUST negotiate. 

I'm appalled by how many women - really successful, assertive and confident women - never ask for what they want. 

These women have told me it's because:

  • The first offer they received was higher than their last salary 
  • They don't want to offend anyone 
  • They don't want to get fired or lose the offer
  • They don't want to seem cocky or like they aren't a team player

Look, I get it. I don't agree, but I do understand.

Asking for more can be scary. 

But what's the worst that can happen? 

They could say "no". 


Then you are in the exact same spot you were in before you asked.  No better.  No worse. 

If you're hesitant to ask for what you want (and this doesn't just pertain to salary), why do you think that is?  What's holding you back?  Do you think you're not good enough?  Do you think you don't deserve it?

I've never had trouble asking for what I want. 

And here's why:  I work my butt off and I'm good at what I do.  I produce results for my employers and my clients. And they know it. 

So it's not crazy that I would want more.  And I fully recognize that I may be told "no".  And that's ok. 

But the simple act of asking, even when the answer is "no", opens up a new set of possibilities. 

By asking, you have put that request out in the Universe and now people know what you want.

You also clearly know where you stand. 

And that gives you options.  

  • You can happily accept the status quo, knowing you tried
  • You can use a "no" to fuel you to make some moves and look for your next opportunity
  • You can use a "no" as leverage to negotiate towards a lesser ask

This last point is important. 

A "no" doesn't necessarily signal that the discussion is over.

Often, it's just the beginning of a longer-term conversation to get you where you want to go, perhaps at a slower pace.

If the idea of negotiating still makes you uncomfortable, then start small.

Try it at Starbucks.  Seriously.  Ask for a discount on your coffee.  (This approach also works at your favorite shoe store too - I tried it and got 20% off just because I asked!).

They might say "no".  But who cares. You just got practice asking for what you want. 

It only gets easier and more natural the more you do it.  

Try it this week. And let me know how it goes!!


3 Ways To Stand Out In a Competitive Job Market

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My clients frequently ask me: “How do I stand out from everyone else in the job market?”

I see a lot of women get stuck here, especially if they haven’t actively searched for a new job in several years or if they don’t feel like they have a particularly sexy skill set.

Figuring out how to distinguish yourself from everyone else in the job market is all about personal branding.

Forgive me for stating the obvious but to have a personal brand, you have to get PERSONAL.

That means letting people see who you are beyond just your skills, expertise and competencies.

There are a lot of different ways you can build and share your personal brand.  Here are 3 of my favorite strategies:

  1. Know What Makes You Different
  2. Have A Strong Elevator Pitch
  3. Create A Compelling LinkedIn Profile


Know What Makes You Different

In order to stand out from other job seekers, you need to know what’s unique about you.  It doesn’t have to be anything exotic or totally out there.  Often times, what’s unique about you is the total composition of your skills, competencies and personal attributes.

This is the notion of your “talent stack,” a term coined by Dilbert cartoonist Scott Adams.  This refers to the systems we use to layer “one modest skill on top of another until the effect is something special.”

Your unique combination of skills won’t look quite like anyone else’s.  This differentiated value proposition is exactly what you need to leverage when promoting yourself.

Recommended Action: Develop an inventory of your talents, skills, competencies and personal attributes and craft a story about who you are based on your talent stack.


Have A Strong Elevator Pitch

Once you have a clear view of your unique talent stack and what makes you different, you’re ready to put together an elevator pitch.  Your elevator pitch is the perfect response for when someone asks, “What do you do?” or “Tell me about yourself.”  It gives people a quick glimpse into not only WHAT you do, but who you are.

An elevator pitch should be concise – no more than 1-3 sentences.  It should give people a sense of your skills, competencies, expertise AND your personality.  It’s your chance to share what makes you special compared to other people with the same skills, competencies and expertise.

Recommended Action: Draft your elevator pitch and run it by at least 3 friends, family members and co-workers to see if it captures who you really are.  Once you’re happy with the final version, practice it over and over again until you can confidently deliver it.


Create A Compelling LinkedIn Profile

 LinkedIn is my favorite social media platform, especially for job seekers.  It’s a fabulous way for you to establish yourself as a thought leader and show people who you really are.

LinkedIn is a great vehicle for recruiters and others to find you and for you to leverage your network to make connections.

Some of the ways you can make your LinkedIn profile compelling:

  • Create an interesting headline – Don’t just use your title here.  You can include a short phrase describing your differentiated value proposition or a few descriptive adjectives or words that give people a glimpse into what makes you interesting and successful.
  • Use the summary section to tell your story – The summary is an opportunity for people to get to know you, as a human being, not a corporate cog.  After all, this is a social network!  Let people know what you’re passionate about professionally, a quick overview of your expertise and who you’re interested in connecting with.
  • Keep your experience high-level – Keep your descriptions short; describe in 1-2 sentences what you did, and if it’s an organization people aren’t familiar with, you may want to include a description of the organization.

Note: Your profile should not be the same as your resume, but it can complement it.  Your resume should detail your relevant work experience and accomplishments; your LinkedIn profile should tell a story about who you are and your career.

Recommended Action:  Search LinkedIn for some profiles you admire.  Think through how you can apply the practices I’ve shared and the inspiration from the profiles you find to your own profile.  To get you started, here’s my profile.


These strategies will help you find greater clarity around your personal brand and communicate your value to the professional world.  To learn more about how I support professional women to stand out and build the career of their dreams, check out my 7 Day Boot Camp and my digital coaching program.   

I've also created a freebie you can grab right here to get started today: my Brand Building Guide.