Badass Professional Women Don’t #6: Be a Tough Guy

This week’s post may ruffle some feathers. 

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Since I started this series on 7 Things Badass Professional Women Don’t Do the majority of criticism has been directed at my use of the term “badass.”

A handful of readers have pointed out that using this term is trashy, unprofessional, unnecessary and an example of being too tough, which contradicts Don’t #6: Don’t Be a Tough Guy. 

So I’m going to use this feedback as a teaching moment for those of us trying to be less tough and for those who are offended by the use of the term “badass.”

Let me start by saying I would be PROUD to be labeled a badass any day.  I think it’s a compliment. 

To me, the term embodies a go-getter spirit, serious ambition and competence and the social graces and intangible qualities that make a person respected, likable and successful.

Last time I checked those were all positive qualities.

To those who find it offensive to label the combination of these qualities “badass”, you’re certainly entitled to your opinion. 

But please don’t try to shame me and other women and men who aspire to become badasses and proudly wear the label.

See what I did there?

First, I expressed my point of view as well as respect for differing perspectives. 

Second, I have spent the last few months building up social capital with you and other readers by sharing my blog posts.  You’ve made it to the 7th post in the series so I must be doing something right. :) 

Third, I’ve responded to criticism of my posts in a very limited way – only responding when I feel like a reader has crossed a line with a blatant insult to women in general (i.e., one reader suggested that adopting the behaviors I have been writing about could veer into “pushy broad” territory).

I point this out not to pat myself on the back, but to illustrate that you can speak up and communicate your viewpoints at work without be harsh, tactless and seen as an overly assertive b*tch.

It just takes some intention and practice.