What's The Right Balance Between Confidence and Humility?

Recently, one of my coaches talked about how confidence and humility are the two main keys to success.

And that got me thinking because that balance between confidence and humility can be tricky, especially for women.

We're told to be confident and own our accomplishments but we all know women who do that and then they’re called arrogant or cocky.

And we know that part of being humble is about listening and being open to learning and feedback.

But we can’t only stay in the role of a learner if we want to be seen as a leader.

So how do we get this balance right between confidence and humility?

Badass women master this balance by doing two key things.

First, we get truly confident about our gifts and self-aware about our limitations.  And we need to be ok with both of these.  I’ve found that it’s when we’re insecure or feel backed into a corner that we start to show up in ways where we don't present our best self.

And a lot of times that is where confidence can veer into arrogance or being obnoxious or defensive.

Second, it helps to have a learning mindset and be open to continuous improvement.  We need to seek out people we can learn from.

And we need to be ok with "failure"; it's part of learning.

When these things happen, it's easier to show up confidently and authentically and still demonstrate humility.

So that’s my take.

What are your thoughts on the role of confidence and humility? How do they play into your success? And how do you balance the two?

Send me a message and let me know – I’d love to hear from you!